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Getting Back to Creation.

Posted on April 6, 2018September 8, 2018 by Patrick J

A strange chain of events occurred recently that culminated in this site, and another site I am creating. The idea had been bouncing around in my head for a while, but I’ve always put it off.

A few weeks ago I played a big part in orchestrating an Ed-Tech summit at my school, and it revitalized my desire to actually do things with my phone or computer, rather than just passively consume things with them.  Kern Kelley was one of the presenters at the conference, and he is who I want to be when I grow up (even though I think we are the same age).  His job revolves around using technology, but he uses tech to create and inspire, rather than just merely to consume. I’ll expand on that more in a later post, but I realized that over the years, the tech choices I have made, made me way more of a consumer, and less of a creator.  I wanted to get back to creating.  In fact, my new position at work almost requires it, if I am to do it well.

He was also very much against Facebook, and when I asked him why he said something that stuck with me.  I am paraphrasing here, but the general gist was that Facebook has made lots of decisions on what to do with their power and influence, and every time, they choose what is best for their bottom line.  They almost always choose the wrong decision.

Then I got a message one day from a co-worker warning me that students were accessing my Facebook pictures, and that they had one where I looked like a missing member of The Beatles.  Turns out they were able to access my old profile pictures. 

Have at it kids!

I knew it wasn’t a big issue because I had it locked down with privacy settings, but it prompted me to look and see how many pictures I had on there, many of which if you were looking at them, without context, would make me look insane.

I swear this was a perfectly logical profile picture at one time.

Looking through all of it gave me more of a sense of dread rather than nostalgia.  How much had I needlessly shared with a company I had zero control over?  Why did I feel the need to share the majority of what I put out there?  What was I getting in return?

I was already on the fence about social media in general.  I have one very good friend who left Facebook due to the various issues with Russian interference in the election, and I was looking around to see where I stood, and what I gained after 10 years of social media use. The answer…….not much.  In fact, what was once fun, did not really seem fun anymore.  The only value I saw was the chronicle that was created of my children growing up, and the adventures my family has had over the years.  (That same chronicle can be seen in my photos on my computer.)  The only problem is, I don’t own it.  In fact, I gave it to someone for free, because it was easy. (Again, much more on this at a later time.)

Then, the Cambridge Analytica debacle was the final piece of the puzzle.

So:

I downloaded all the content I created on Facebook

I used the Social Book Post Manger extension in Chrome to delete all of my previous posts, as my wife looked on and said , “Goodbye memories.”  My pictures are still there, and they are all saved in Google photos.  I want to be able to pull the plug, but I haven’t yet.  I think what I am doing is redefining my relationship with the platform and how I use it, and how it uses me. For me, it still has its merits, and I think this latest scandal will cause it to self regulate (or even be actually regulated) way more than it has in the past.

I created a new Facebook messenger profile attached to my phone number. I find value in the service, as many of my friends in the United States use it, and it is my primary way to message them personally.   I also use WhatsApp, which is owned by Facebook, but it is necessary to communicate here in Costa Rica, just as Wechat was necessary in China.  Again, I find value in the services, and I am willing to exchange my data for their services.

I began researching my options for hosting my own websites, and even setting up my own social network using WordPress. I had heard of wordpress.com, but had no idea about wordpress.org, and that you could use their open source software to build your own sites.  Once I saw how easy it was, I purchased this domain and one other for $10 a year, and read tutorials on how to get it all going.  The surface is barely scratched at this point, and I look forward to playing around with the thousands of plugins and features I can use to create something unique for me and my family.

I had to pay for server space, but that is kind of the point of all of this.  If I value the content I create, and I value my privacy, then I have to pay for it. What we pay for expresses our values.  So for an initial payment of $92 or $7.66 per month, I have carved out my little corner of the internet that I own, and I am in the process of leaving my sharecropping agreement with social media.  With WordPress, I can automatically post that I have updated my blog to social networks, but I will own what I produce.  I can still use the ability to connect, without the tradeoff that convenience provides.  I can still use the masters land, but no longer have to give up what I produce. People will have to leave their newsfeeds to see what I am up to. It is not a simple as clicking the superficial, yet sought after, “like” button, but I guess that is also part of the point. (I swear I have tried to write this last paragraph without sounding sanctimonious. I am not sure my goal was reached.)

Which begs the question:  will anybody read any of this?

In reality, I do not expect many people to.  What I do expect is that the interactions I have with people here, will be deeper, and more real, than the quick heart emojis or smiley faces that accompany a great social media post.  Thousands of people have read my social media posts, and in reality, I have nothing to show for it.  Is it better to have a few people who really care what I am up to read my posts or view my photos, or is it better to reach as many people as conveniently as possible?  I guess only time will tell.

If you see me posting messages on Facebook again, and not just links to my blogs, you’ll know the answer.

These last two weeks, I have spent roughly the amount of time I would have spent on Facebook getting this set up and writing this post.  I acquired new skills, and even had to make sure I was using parentheses correctly. 

Most importantly, I enjoyed time well spent.

It is time for me to get back to creation.

Welcome to my site.

Please feel free to comment

………and feel free to share this post on social media, if that’s what you’re in to 🙂

 

 

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36 thoughts on “Getting Back to Creation.”

  1. Aidan Clevinger says:
    April 6, 2018 at 11:25 am

    “Is it better to have a few people who really care what I am up to read my posts or view my photos, or is it better to reach as many people as conveniently as possible?”

    We know what Plato would say (the former). Looking forward to reading more!

    Reply
    1. Don A says:
      April 6, 2018 at 1:48 pm

      Absolutely!

      Reply
    2. Patrick J says:
      April 6, 2018 at 11:57 pm

      This is what I am talking about. I respected you so greatly when I had the honor of teaching you, and now you have responded to a rather lengthy diatribe during my midlife crises. Aidan, please message me (patrickj114@gmail.com) to give me an update on what you are up to!

      Reply
  2. Karen says:
    April 6, 2018 at 12:39 pm

    I read this Patrick and I found it interesting and enlightening and I love hearing your voice!

    Reply
    1. Patrick J says:
      April 6, 2018 at 11:52 pm

      Love you too Karen!

      Reply
  3. Ramiro says:
    April 6, 2018 at 1:28 pm

    Patrick, congratulations on your blog. I loved your first post. It’s honest and straightforward. As you know, I have had a blog since 2008 and, because of social media, have left it asida. I’m planning on dusting it off and getting back to it.

    Blogging is amazing in so many different levels. However, there is one I think its particularly important: it’s kind of a thinking exercise that will make you a better person.

    Here is Seth Godin explaining it better than me -> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=livzJTIWlmY

    Keep it going. I’ll for sure be back to read more.

    Abrazo grande

    Reply
    1. Patrick J says:
      April 7, 2018 at 12:00 am

      Thanks for the link!

      Reply
  4. Don A says:
    April 6, 2018 at 1:49 pm

    Absolutely love the site and mission and AC comment on Plato!

    Reply
    1. Patrick J says:
      April 7, 2018 at 12:09 am

      Absolutely love you sir!

      Reply
  5. Carol Hartofil says:
    April 6, 2018 at 2:12 pm

    Love you Patrick. This does not improve how illiterate I am with ant technology. ??❤️

    Reply
    1. Patrick J says:
      April 6, 2018 at 3:39 pm

      Love you too! Ant technology is evolving so quickly I don’t know how any of us can keep up 🙂

      Reply
      1. Carol Hartofil says:
        April 6, 2018 at 4:21 pm

        Any tevhnology?

        Reply
  6. Douglas Gilmer says:
    April 6, 2018 at 2:22 pm

    Yes, some people will read it sometimes, some people will skim other times (like me today). Focus on the process and the writing for your enjoyment, not others. Do people want to read it? Who and why? When? Will you always want to share or is it an outlet of weaning off social media and it will soon fizzle out. The internet, access to and sharing information is still in its infancy but changes exponentially. It will continue to change in ways we can’t predict. I’m just going to kick back tonight and watch Fight Club and some World Cup reruns.

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    1. Patrick J says:
      April 7, 2018 at 12:08 am

      Don’t skim. Deep read and I think you’ll find the answers to your questions MFJ.

      Reply
      1. Douglas Gilmer says:
        April 7, 2018 at 3:16 pm

        Yes sir.

        Reply
  7. Mom says:
    April 6, 2018 at 3:36 pm

    Do I hav to sign in every time I leave a comment

    Reply
    1. Patrick J says:
      April 6, 2018 at 3:47 pm

      I really don’t know, but if you don’t, I think if you comment on any wordpress site your name will be mom.

      Reply
      1. Kristy says:
        April 6, 2018 at 5:55 pm

        Uh oh.

        Reply
  8. Julie W says:
    April 6, 2018 at 4:09 pm

    Very nicely said Patrick. I always enjoy seeing what you and your family are up to. You have broadened my thoughts regarding social media. I look forward to reading more of your talent!

    Reply
    1. Patrick J says:
      April 7, 2018 at 12:01 am

      Thanks Julie! Hope you and your family are doing well!

      Reply
  9. Douglas Gilmer says:
    April 6, 2018 at 5:03 pm

    I admire you Patrick.

    Reply
    1. Patrick J says:
      April 7, 2018 at 12:02 am

      You’re ok Doug 🙂

      Reply
  10. John C Bertuna says:
    April 6, 2018 at 5:17 pm

    Good for you buddy! Looking forward to reading your content!

    Reply
    1. Patrick J says:
      April 7, 2018 at 12:03 am

      Thanks John ( I don’t think I have ever called you that in my life). Hope you and your family are doing well!

      Reply
  11. Tara says:
    April 6, 2018 at 7:08 pm

    Always excited to follow your journey, whether it be on facebook or elsewhere!

    Reply
    1. Patrick J says:
      April 7, 2018 at 12:03 am

      Love you Tara!

      Reply
  12. Pouneh says:
    April 6, 2018 at 7:31 pm

    I am excited I figured out how to follow this blog without having to click on the link through Facebook! Yay!

    Reply
    1. Patrick J says:
      April 7, 2018 at 12:04 am

      I’m excited too! Words cannot express how much I miss you guys!

      Reply
  13. Jim Farrlley says:
    April 6, 2018 at 8:02 pm

    Very interesting and well written. You make some valid points I look forward to your future posts and I wish you good luck on the journey. Love you…..Dad

    Reply
    1. Patrick J says:
      April 7, 2018 at 12:06 am

      Love you too Dad!

      BTW, your “and the north pole” comment to Ainslee is still cracking me up!

      Reply
  14. Derek says:
    April 6, 2018 at 8:32 pm

    Hey man nice work! I started my podcast a few years ago with the some of the similar ideas you talk about. I wanted to create rather than simply consume, so I learned WordPress and it’s been extremely rewarding. Best of luck I will keep reading

    Reply
    1. Patrick J says:
      April 7, 2018 at 12:07 am

      Where can I find it? I have never wanted to hear another podcast more in my life!

      Reply
  15. Patrick J says:
    April 6, 2018 at 11:51 pm

    Within 12 hours, this is way more than I expected. Thank you everyone for your comments. When I spoke about deeper engagement, this has already proven successful!
    I love you all, and thank you!

    Reply
  16. Lisa Scott says:
    April 8, 2018 at 7:51 am

    How nice to read something that encourages self-reflection and individual thinking. But then, that’s you. Hope you don’t mind if I peek in once in a while to watch the journey.

    Reply
  17. Bethany Bates says:
    April 11, 2018 at 6:20 am

    My comments are that I read your post, I question your ‘thousands’ have read my Facebook updates,and did you buys tickets to Europe yet?

    Reply
    1. Patrick J says:
      April 11, 2018 at 6:26 am

      You really have no idea how popular I am huh?

      Reply

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